Any divorce Atty's here?

Gary S

JohnnyBandit wrote: »

THIS THIS THIS..... your wife is going to file a female attorney..... That female attorney is going to try to juggle things around and put you in front of a female judge..... You do not want to have a male attorney....

I had a female attorney. She got house and I paid the credit card bills and her car off. Was married for 4 years and no kids. All I wanted was out and thats what I got. I feel a male attorney would have tried to talk some sense in me.

cadman

When I got divorced, I sat down and wrote down every assert and every liability. Sold the house, paid off the liabilities. She kept all the money in her Tiaa-Cref plan, which was most of our retirement money since all I had was a small IRA at the time. She also kept her state retirement money. It was probably the main place she came out ahead. she kept most of the assets except my dog, coin collection, and small items she left behind when she moved out. It started out as an equal split, but someone she was talking to convinced her she should get more, so she kept asking for more stuff every other week. I ended up leaving with about $5000 cash, which I used a as closing costs on another house. She wanted the divorce, but once she decoded that, I did not care anymore except for my dog. Said she was tired of marriage.

That happened in 2000. I built up some savings and it got wiped out in the 2008 recession. I am finally building again after that, so I anticipate something going wrong soon. I keep backing up the retirement date every time one of these events happen.

No attorneys were involved at all.

Team Sabatage

I sat in the car, a ways out into the lot, it was 11:30pm sharp.
It seemed unusually dark that February night, a light drizzle had just stopped.
I watched as she walked out the door, he glanced at me, I lit a cigarette, it was the signal, he started forward, towards her...
We had discussed how it would go down, I still had a pit in my stomach though.
Talking about it was one thing, having it done was another.
We had been together since our freshman year, 12 years later, we had both changed and not along parallel paths.
I almost had regrets for what was about to happen to her.
I knew she would be confused.
I hoped she wouldn't be in pain to long.
He said it would be over before she knew it.
I had already given him the money.

As he stepped directly in front of her, she stopped, looked starteled for a moment, then he said "Linda ____".
"Yes" she replied.
He touched the envelope to her arm and said, " You've been served", turned abruptly and walked away.
She stood, for a moment, then walked to her car.
The beginning of the end, it was all in there, the accountants documents, appraisals, there were no children, two houses, her in the city where she worked and me at the lake, where I worked. She called a week later and said she was sending the package back to my lawyer, signed.
Results may vary.

SeaSpy

SAENole wrote: »

60K is only 6 patients.....milking their PIP for 10K each then showing them the door.

Nothing to it.

True that.

A neurosurgeon ??

4million a year.
Milking the medically necessary benifit.

At 100 k

Per disectomy.

SeaSpy

Demere wrote: »

A wonderful family law attorney and I settled a multi million dollar divorce case in about 6 hours and at a total cost - both sides - for under $6,000. Whole case start to finish was 3 weeks. Both parties were intelligent, reasonable and fair minded. I attribute that success to them more than to me and opposing counsel. The main reason most cases are long and expensive are also due to the parties. If the parties won't compromise and take the standard "my way or the highway" approach - you get long and expensive litigation. That said there are many attorneys who "churn" cases to get the most money out of them they can. I know who they are (in my area) and have several strategies to stop their behavior.

Good on you Counsler.

My cost was less than 1500.00

No ex wife payments.

Child support + 70/30

50/50 marital assets.

To Op,
Just make sure you get credit for any taxes due on early withdrawal retirement plans.

Not fair if you need funds after giving all hard assets
Cash property to ex.

Something often overlooked in marital separation agreements.

Nick Nikon

The Divorce Attorney's Nightmare

Opening Shot:

Slow pan and zoom in.

Middle-aged women in dark business suit, standing in front of a bookshelf.

She's holding a manila folder, and looks up at the camera.

"Ladies, did you have sex with your divorce attorney?"

"If so, you might be entitled to compensation for this severe ethical lapse."

"Call the law firm of Quinn, Flynn, and Cohen for a free consultation."

Cut to:

Young women in the backyard of a house.

She's holding one small child, another one clings to her leg.

"Have sex with him? Hell, I married the sonofa*****!"

Cut to:

Spokesmodel ... "We'd be happy to discuss your case."

Cut to:

Young man in "business casual" attire.

"Hey, what about me? I went down on him, and still lost the house!"

Cut to:

Spokesmodel ... "Give us a call, for a free consultation."

King_Me

I don't understand why people get married these days. My GF and I get along great sharing expenses and what not. She has her assets and I have mine. She knows I won't get married to her and she's OK with that, its all about commitment to the relationship. Actually I think it makes the relationship stronger knowing we're not bound with a piece of paper.

2true

King_Me wrote: »

I don't understand why people get married these days. My GF and I get along great sharing expenses and what not. She has her assets and I have mine. She knows I won't get married to her and she's OK with that, its all about commitment to the relationship. Actually I think it makes the relationship stronger knowing we're not bound with a piece of paper.

Its that whole "Christian/Jesus/God thang"

SeaSpy

2true wrote: »

Its that whole "Christian/Jesus/God thang"

Kids for me.

Gary S

King_Me wrote: »

I don't understand why people get married these days. My GF and I get along great sharing expenses and what not. She has her assets and I have mine. She knows I won't get married to her and she's OK with that, its all about commitment to the relationship. Actually I think it makes the relationship stronger knowing we're not bound with a piece of paper.

Until one of you are laying in a hospital and the other one can't come in because they are not family. But I do agree that marriage is the leading cause of divorce.

1outlaw

Gary S wrote: »

Until one of you are laying in a hospital and the other one can't come in because they are not family. But I do agree that marriage is the leading cause of divorce.

This is the answer.....My now wife have lived together as BF and GF for the past 7 years.....Finally decided to put it on paper... The above reasons played a major factor....

King_Me

Gary S wrote: »

Until one of you are laying in a hospital and the other one can't come in because they are not family. But I do agree that marriage is the leading cause of divorce.

Yes, this was discussed and really is the only reason to get married in our case. Oh well, we'll take that chance. I still have family members including my father and mother and she has family that will aid if that case ever occurs.

Finfinder

Demere wrote: »

That's correct. My position is we'll make a reasonable settlement offer and if it's not accepted, set for trial. It's a heck of a lot cheaper than litigating for 7 years. No one should spend that much of their life involved in a divorce. Never be afraid to try your case.

did you laugh when you typed reasonable :grin

Demere

Finfinder wrote: »

did you laugh when you typed reasonable :grin

No, I have no sense of humor that I'm aware of.

Finfinder

Demere wrote: »

No, I have no sense of humor that I'm aware of.

Exhibit A

team getterdun

My God I'm in the midst of this s?&t. Mine has been going on now for 2.5 years. I went to jail for bogus charges. I say that because I didn't do anything, but I exercised my right to remain silent. Therefore, I was taken to jail for being 'evasive'. Oh, and I was the one who went to jail with a black and swollen eye. Not a scratch, mark, or bruise on her. But I kept my mouth shut, which the judge later said that because of that, that I was "evasive".

The State ended up dropping all charges. But not after I'd lost my job.

So much for "You have the right to remain silent"

I'm dead broke. I've lost my job. My truck is about to get repo'd. I'm four months behind in mortgage payment. It's horrendous.

Women...

Jobless.

It's absolute hell. Pure hell.

micci_man

Hang in there TGD!! Things will get better, may take a while but they will.

Demere

team getterdun wrote: »

My God I'm in the midst of this s?&t. Mine has been going on now for 2.5 years. I went to jail for bogus charges. I say that because I didn't do anything, but I exercised my right to remain silent. Therefore, I was taken to jail for being 'evasive'. Oh, and I was the one who went to jail with a black and swollen eye. Not a scratch, mark, or bruise on her. But I kept my mouth shut, which the judge later said that because of that, that I was "evasive".

The State ended up dropping all charges. But not after I'd lost my job.

So much for "You have the right to remain silent"

I'm dead broke. I've lost my job. My truck is about to get repo'd. I'm four months behind in mortgage payment. It's horrendous.

Women...

Jobless.

It's absolute hell. Pure hell.

Sorry to hear of your troubles. These things well and truly suck. Just FYI the 5th Amendment protection against self incrimination gets tricky. In a criminal case the jury can't make any assumption of guilt based on your claim of privilege. Different rule in a civil (including a domestic violence) case. In a civil case a court or jury CAN "take the negative inference" - meaning they can assume guilt based on your claiming the privilege and refusal to answer.

Resinhead

team getterdun wrote: »

My God I'm in the midst of this s?&t.

Jobless.

It's absolute hell. Pure hell.

What do you do?

team getterdun

I have been in IT for the last 16 years. Windows-side. Mostly server, back-end stuff, but started out on Tier 1 answering the phones.

team getterdun

Demere wrote: »

Sorry to hear of your troubles. These things well and truly suck. Just FYI the 5th Amendment protection against self incrimination gets tricky. In a criminal case the jury can't make any assumption of guilt based on your claim of privilege. Different rule in a civil (including a domestic violence) case. In a civil case a court or jury CAN "take the negative inference" - meaning they can assume guilt based on your claiming the privilege and refusal to answer.

I ended up going through Veterans Treatment Court in Pasco County. That's why I lost my job. Three days a week for six months, 3 hours a day, plus one day a week for batterers intervention program (BIP).

It's been a mess. A hot mess.

Flats2blue

Gary S wrote: »

Until one of you are laying in a hospital and the other one can't come in because they are not family. But I do agree that marriage is the leading cause of divorce.

Go to a family lawyer and get Durable Power of Attorney, a Living Will, and Health Care Surrogate for each other. Easy to do and gives you control for each other. You don't have to be married to support each other during crisis.

Resinhead

team getterdun wrote: »

I have been in IT for the last 16 years. Windows-side. Mostly server, back-end stuff, but started out on Tier 1 answering the phones.

Check with KForce. Pretty sure they're in the Tarpon Springs area. They've been adding staff lately. Good friend of mine is a senior engineer and always looking.

restlessnative

Resinhead wrote: »

Check with KForce. Pretty sure they're in the Tarpon Springs area. They've been adding staff lately. Good friend of mine is a senior engineer and always looking.

KForce is in Tampa, more specifically Ybor City. They are a staffing company that I believe specializes in IT so good suggestion and probably worth a call. Quick Google search for them will probably get you all you need getterdun.