Any divorce Atty's here?

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  • Mister-JrMister-Jr Posts: 27,698 AG
    Been engaged 15 years :wink
    Vote for the other candidate
  • tankardtankard Posts: 7,031 Admiral
    My god, i'm buying flowers for my wife on the way home.


    Lol!
  • Soda PopinskiSoda Popinski GrovelandPosts: 11,206 AG
    tankard wrote: »
    Lol!

    She knows what would kill me too. She'd take old "Fun Stuff" even though she doesn't have a car to tow it and probably sell it to her brother or something just to see me cry.
    People use statistics the way a drunk uses a street light, for support rather than illumination.
  • SJCSJC Posts: 2,570 Captain
    micci_man wrote: »
    I know a guy that has been trying to finalize his divorce for 7 years. X won't sign and keeps going back to court wanting more each time she finds out he gets a raise, bonus's etc. I don't see how one can drag out so long but I know nothing about it thankfully.

    Good luck :beer


    Yeah how does that work. From what I understand you have mediation. If nothing is settled in mediation you go in front of the judge. Then it's done.

    Just because she won't sign doesn't stop a divorce.
    The Beatings will continue until moral improves!
  • fishdishfishdish Posts: 1,223 Officer
    I just don't get how they could be so spiteful and greedy. If you're a POS and kids are involved I could see them going for some of your dough. If it ain't working wouldn't an amicable split be better for everyone? Move on and live your life. I guess I married well after all.....
  • micci_manmicci_man Somewhere in FLPosts: 13,490 AG
    SJC wrote: »
    Yeah how does that work. From what I understand you have mediation. If nothing is settled in mediation you go in front of the judge. Then it's done.

    Just because she won't sign doesn't stop a divorce.

    I have no clue. I'll ask next time I see him.
    Common Sense can't be bought, taught or gifted, yet it is one of the few things in life that is free, and most refuse to even attempt to possess it. - Miguel Cervantes
  • DemereDemere Posts: 1,464 Officer
    SJC wrote: »
    Yeah how does that work. From what I understand you have mediation. If nothing is settled in mediation you go in front of the judge. Then it's done.

    Just because she won't sign doesn't stop a divorce.
    That's correct. My position is we'll make a reasonable settlement offer and if it's not accepted, set for trial. It's a heck of a lot cheaper than litigating for 7 years. No one should spend that much of their life involved in a divorce. Never be afraid to try your case.
  • 2true2true Posts: 2,112 Captain
    Florida is a [email protected] divorce state. Guy I know was changing his wife's oil found her diary in her car that outlined a steamy affair with a lawyer. He had to buy her out of HIS house and giver her money to keep her from getting his cars. And SHE is the one that cheated on him!!!!
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  • DemereDemere Posts: 1,464 Officer
    2true wrote: »
    Florida is a [email protected] divorce state. Guy I know was changing his wife's oil found her diary in her car that outlined a steamy affair with a lawyer. He had to buy her out of HIS house and giver her money to keep her from getting his cars. And SHE is the one that cheated on him!!!!
    Although adultery can be a factor in alimony the focus is on the "economic nexus" rule. Unless the affair had a significant economic impact of the parties it's generally not a significant factor in the financial aspects of the case. When it comes to kids issues - it may be a very different matter.
  • MadbeachMadbeach On the riverPosts: 970 Officer
    2true wrote: »
    And SHE is the one that cheated on him!!!!

    I'd be willing to bet that deep inside, she has somehow made herself believe that she is the victim.
  • tunamantunaman Posts: 3,767 Captain
    2true wrote: »
    I met a Chiropractor that was paying his wife 60k a year in Alimony. FREAKIN OWWW

    Its all relative, he probably makes $400,000
  • SAENoleSAENole Posts: 10,709 AG
    tunaman wrote: »
    Its all relative, he probably makes $400,000

    60K is only 6 patients.....milking their PIP for 10K each then showing them the door.

    Nothing to it.
    Warning Level 2
  • Keep on SpoolinKeep on Spoolin Posts: 1,343 Officer
    SAENole wrote: »
    60K is only 6 patients.....milking their PIP for 10K each then showing them the door.

    Nothing to it.

    :rotflmao
  • Gary SGary S Posts: 1,603 Captain
    Don't sweat it and get a lawyer you trust. If you only get stuck for two years it will pass fast. Not having to live with uneasy feelings when ever your home has to be worth something. And be grateful for not starting a family with her.
  • You do know why divorce costs so much right?
    Because its worth it!
  • Soda PopinskiSoda Popinski GrovelandPosts: 11,206 AG
    You do know why divorce costs so much right?
    Because its worth it!

    This may be the funniest thing I've read all year.
    People use statistics the way a drunk uses a street light, for support rather than illumination.
  • Baits OutBaits Out Posts: 12,331 AG
    Mister-Jr wrote: »
    Been engaged 15 years :wink

    Yes. Been down that road a few times and only costed me about 80 grand I spent on improving their houses.

    Too soon old; too late smart.

    But, no alimony or any of that.

    Never calculated how much that was per lay?

    DUMMY ME!

    A southeast Florida laid back beach bum and volunteer bikini assessor who lives on island time. 
  • Soda PopinskiSoda Popinski GrovelandPosts: 11,206 AG
    Baits Out wrote: »
    Yes. Been down that road a few times and only costed me about 80 grand I spent on improving their houses.

    Too soon old; too late smart.

    But, no alimony or any of that.

    Never calculated how much that was per lay?

    DUMMY ME!

    You don't want to figure that out vs the cost of a massage at a sketchy massage parlor. If it's just a business decision, $75 is about as cheap as a night out with dinner and drinks.
    People use statistics the way a drunk uses a street light, for support rather than illumination.
  • Team SabatageTeam Sabatage Posts: 12,898 AG
    Canebrake wrote: »
    I have an attorney and he's telling me not to sweat it but I am anyway. We were married April 2008 and separated in February 2016. She's asking for alimony and the house. She Has worked the entire time we were together. She did not work for almost a year for personal reasons and left a job where she did really well. She is working now but makes half of what she used to make.

    I do make 3X's more than her now and she can't afford the house on her own. No kids are involved. She has 2 Bachelor degrees. Education and biology. She has the ability to make more than she does now.

    My attorney is saying we haven't been married long enough, but I see in Florida that at 7 years a certain type of Alimony can be awarded. Whats the chances?

    Why, sir, everyone here is a divorce attorney...:rotflmao
    Strap me in, tie me down and roll me a bone, I'm getting on an airplane and I'm flying home...
  • DemereDemere Posts: 1,464 Officer
    Why, sir, everyone here is a divorce attorney...:rotflmao
    I am.
  • Soda PopinskiSoda Popinski GrovelandPosts: 11,206 AG
    Demere wrote: »
    I am.

    I hope to god i never have to send you a PM
    People use statistics the way a drunk uses a street light, for support rather than illumination.
  • DemereDemere Posts: 1,464 Officer
    I hope to god i never have to send you a PM
    Anybody who talks to me is having a very bad day.
  • Soda PopinskiSoda Popinski GrovelandPosts: 11,206 AG
    Demere wrote: »
    Anybody who talks to me is having a very bad day.

    That sucks, I can't imagine what that is like on a day to day basis. I'm sure you make good $$$ and are compensated well, but to sit and listen to all the horror stories is not something I would enjoy on a day to day basis. It's like being a therapist but then you have to go argue why your client is more damaged than the other one.
    People use statistics the way a drunk uses a street light, for support rather than illumination.
  • Cane PoleCane Pole Stuart, FLAPosts: 9,798 Admiral
    All I can say is that attorneys aren't looking for any quick settlements....
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  • 1outlaw1outlaw Naples FLPosts: 1,147 Officer
    Demere wrote: »
    Anybody who talks to me is having a very bad day.

    I literally laughed out loud!!!

    My divorce turned out very well some 12 years ago......Good luck to the OP!! I think you will be fine!
    Jason :USA
  • pottydocpottydoc The thriving metropolis of Umatilla Posts: 3,474 Captain
    Cane Pole wrote: »
    All I can say is that attorneys aren't looking for any quick settlements....
    This. When they say they want to make it as quick and painless as possible, they lie. My ex found out the hard way. I was lucky, and had a friend who's still a member here handle my part. I paid him in rum and a couple dinners.
  • DemereDemere Posts: 1,464 Officer
    Cane Pole wrote: »
    All I can say is that attorneys aren't looking for any quick settlements....
    A wonderful family law attorney and I settled a multi million dollar divorce case in about 6 hours and at a total cost - both sides - for under $6,000. Whole case start to finish was 3 weeks. Both parties were intelligent, reasonable and fair minded. I attribute that success to them more than to me and opposing counsel. The main reason most cases are long and expensive are also due to the parties. If the parties won't compromise and take the standard "my way or the highway" approach - you get long and expensive litigation. That said there are many attorneys who "churn" cases to get the most money out of them they can. I know who they are (in my area) and have several strategies to stop their behavior.
  • SpinfisherSpinfisher Posts: 756 Officer
    Resinhead wrote: »
    Sell the house, split whatever proceeds. See ya.

    Buy a bigger boat and find a hotter, younger chick.

    Enjoy both.

    The best advice on here! I would recommend you get four or five girls, do them all at once if you can...
  • LobstababeLobstababe Posts: 280 Deckhand
    I wish you good luck. It took me a year and a half to get divorced after 22 years of marriage and 2 adult (barely) boys, no picnic either. The ex is a family attorney who represented himself - insert joke here!

    I found a great attorney who took me through the process and in the end, I walked away with a lump sum agreement after 10+ hour mediation.

    My only advise is to now look at it as a business deal, the more personal you take it the more you can lose. He wanted to give nothing and was so caught up in his own anger he ended up losing on attorney's fees and now is responsible to get the boys through college. He is far worse off than I even expected. Me, I'm free of the BS and lovin' life!
  • PROFINITYPROFINITY Posts: 261 Deckhand
    If you can both cooperate with each other and come to amicable terms, think about entering a marital settlement agreement.

    I would attempt to engage a non-contested divorce. If you both agree the marriage is over and can come to terms about money and property and you have no children, which is a condition, then a simplified dissolution of marriage is possible. This way you both waive the right to alimony. Make a deal if you can.
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