Any divorce Atty's here?

Mister-Jr

Been engaged 15 years :wink

tankard

Soda Popinski wrote: »

My god, i'm buying flowers for my wife on the way home.

Lol!

Soda Popinski

tankard wrote: »

Lol!

She knows what would kill me too. She'd take old "Fun Stuff" even though she doesn't have a car to tow it and probably sell it to her brother or something just to see me cry.

SJC

micci_man wrote: »

I know a guy that has been trying to finalize his divorce for 7 years. X won't sign and keeps going back to court wanting more each time she finds out he gets a raise, bonus's etc. I don't see how one can drag out so long but I know nothing about it thankfully.

Good luck :beer

Yeah how does that work. From what I understand you have mediation. If nothing is settled in mediation you go in front of the judge. Then it's done.

Just because she won't sign doesn't stop a divorce.

fishdish

I just don't get how they could be so spiteful and greedy. If you're a POS and kids are involved I could see them going for some of your dough. If it ain't working wouldn't an amicable split be better for everyone? Move on and live your life. I guess I married well after all.....

micci_man

SJC wrote: »

Yeah how does that work. From what I understand you have mediation. If nothing is settled in mediation you go in front of the judge. Then it's done.

Just because she won't sign doesn't stop a divorce.

I have no clue. I'll ask next time I see him.

Demere

SJC wrote: »

Yeah how does that work. From what I understand you have mediation. If nothing is settled in mediation you go in front of the judge. Then it's done.

Just because she won't sign doesn't stop a divorce.

That's correct. My position is we'll make a reasonable settlement offer and if it's not accepted, set for trial. It's a heck of a lot cheaper than litigating for 7 years. No one should spend that much of their life involved in a divorce. Never be afraid to try your case.

2true

Florida is a [email protected] divorce state. Guy I know was changing his wife's oil found her diary in her car that outlined a steamy affair with a lawyer. He had to buy her out of HIS house and giver her money to keep her from getting his cars. And SHE is the one that cheated on him!!!!

Demere

2true wrote: »

Florida is a [email protected] divorce state. Guy I know was changing his wife's oil found her diary in her car that outlined a steamy affair with a lawyer. He had to buy her out of HIS house and giver her money to keep her from getting his cars. And SHE is the one that cheated on him!!!!

Although adultery can be a factor in alimony the focus is on the "economic nexus" rule. Unless the affair had a significant economic impact of the parties it's generally not a significant factor in the financial aspects of the case. When it comes to kids issues - it may be a very different matter.

Madbeach

2true wrote: »

And SHE is the one that cheated on him!!!!

I'd be willing to bet that deep inside, she has somehow made herself believe that she is the victim.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kZ-hLlrXS6w

tunaman

2true wrote: »

I met a Chiropractor that was paying his wife 60k a year in Alimony. FREAKIN OWWW

Its all relative, he probably makes $400,000

SAENole

tunaman wrote: »

Its all relative, he probably makes $400,000

60K is only 6 patients.....milking their PIP for 10K each then showing them the door.

Nothing to it.

Keep on Spoolin

SAENole wrote: »

60K is only 6 patients.....milking their PIP for 10K each then showing them the door.

Nothing to it.

:rotflmao

Gary S

Don't sweat it and get a lawyer you trust. If you only get stuck for two years it will pass fast. Not having to live with uneasy feelings when ever your home has to be worth something. And be grateful for not starting a family with her.

[email protected] Special

You do know why divorce costs so much right?
Because its worth it!

Soda Popinski

[email protected] Special wrote: »

You do know why divorce costs so much right?
Because its worth it!

This may be the funniest thing I've read all year.

Baits Out

Mister-Jr wrote: »

Been engaged 15 years :wink

Yes. Been down that road a few times and only costed me about 80 grand I spent on improving their houses.

Too soon old; too late smart.

But, no alimony or any of that.

Never calculated how much that was per lay?

DUMMY ME!

Soda Popinski

Baits Out wrote: »

Yes. Been down that road a few times and only costed me about 80 grand I spent on improving their houses.

Too soon old; too late smart.

But, no alimony or any of that.

Never calculated how much that was per lay?

DUMMY ME!

You don't want to figure that out vs the cost of a massage at a sketchy massage parlor. If it's just a business decision, $75 is about as cheap as a night out with dinner and drinks.

Team Sabatage

Canebrake wrote: »

I have an attorney and he's telling me not to sweat it but I am anyway. We were married April 2008 and separated in February 2016. She's asking for alimony and the house. She Has worked the entire time we were together. She did not work for almost a year for personal reasons and left a job where she did really well. She is working now but makes half of what she used to make.

I do make 3X's more than her now and she can't afford the house on her own. No kids are involved. She has 2 Bachelor degrees. Education and biology. She has the ability to make more than she does now.

My attorney is saying we haven't been married long enough, but I see in Florida that at 7 years a certain type of Alimony can be awarded. Whats the chances?

Why, sir, everyone here is a divorce attorney...:rotflmao

Demere

Team Sabatage wrote: »

Why, sir, everyone here is a divorce attorney...:rotflmao

I am.

Soda Popinski

Demere wrote: »

I am.

I hope to god i never have to send you a PM

Demere

Soda Popinski wrote: »

I hope to god i never have to send you a PM

Anybody who talks to me is having a very bad day.

Soda Popinski

Demere wrote: »

Anybody who talks to me is having a very bad day.

That sucks, I can't imagine what that is like on a day to day basis. I'm sure you make good $$$ and are compensated well, but to sit and listen to all the horror stories is not something I would enjoy on a day to day basis. It's like being a therapist but then you have to go argue why your client is more damaged than the other one.

Cane Pole

All I can say is that attorneys aren't looking for any quick settlements....

1outlaw

Demere wrote: »

Anybody who talks to me is having a very bad day.

I literally laughed out loud!!!

My divorce turned out very well some 12 years ago......Good luck to the OP!! I think you will be fine!

pottydoc

Cane Pole wrote: »

All I can say is that attorneys aren't looking for any quick settlements....

This. When they say they want to make it as quick and painless as possible, they lie. My ex found out the hard way. I was lucky, and had a friend who's still a member here handle my part. I paid him in rum and a couple dinners.

Demere

Cane Pole wrote: »

All I can say is that attorneys aren't looking for any quick settlements....

A wonderful family law attorney and I settled a multi million dollar divorce case in about 6 hours and at a total cost - both sides - for under $6,000. Whole case start to finish was 3 weeks. Both parties were intelligent, reasonable and fair minded. I attribute that success to them more than to me and opposing counsel. The main reason most cases are long and expensive are also due to the parties. If the parties won't compromise and take the standard "my way or the highway" approach - you get long and expensive litigation. That said there are many attorneys who "churn" cases to get the most money out of them they can. I know who they are (in my area) and have several strategies to stop their behavior.

Spinfisher

Resinhead wrote: »

Sell the house, split whatever proceeds. See ya.

Buy a bigger boat and find a hotter, younger chick.

Enjoy both.

The best advice on here! I would recommend you get four or five girls, do them all at once if you can...

Lobstababe

I wish you good luck. It took me a year and a half to get divorced after 22 years of marriage and 2 adult (barely) boys, no picnic either. The ex is a family attorney who represented himself - insert joke here!

I found a great attorney who took me through the process and in the end, I walked away with a lump sum agreement after 10+ hour mediation.

My only advise is to now look at it as a business deal, the more personal you take it the more you can lose. He wanted to give nothing and was so caught up in his own anger he ended up losing on attorney's fees and now is responsible to get the boys through college. He is far worse off than I even expected. Me, I'm free of the BS and lovin' life!

PROFINITY

If you can both cooperate with each other and come to amicable terms, think about entering a marital settlement agreement.

I would attempt to engage a non-contested divorce. If you both agree the marriage is over and can come to terms about money and property and you have no children, which is a condition, then a simplified dissolution of marriage is possible. This way you both waive the right to alimony. Make a deal if you can.