Any divorce Atty's here?

Canebrake

I have an attorney and he's telling me not to sweat it but I am anyway. We were married April 2008 and separated in February 2016. She's asking for alimony and the house. She Has worked the entire time we were together. She did not work for almost a year for personal reasons and left a job where she did really well. She is working now but makes half of what she used to make.

I do make 3X's more than her now and she can't afford the house on her own. No kids are involved. She has 2 Bachelor degrees. Education and biology. She has the ability to make more than she does now.

My attorney is saying we haven't been married long enough, but I see in Florida that at 7 years a certain type of Alimony can be awarded. Whats the chances?

Polar

11 years in, she worked for 5 of them. Judge said " NO" to alimony.

Redhunter

I was married for 13 to the first one. No Alimony here. If you can show she can make a reasonable income, you are good to go. No matter what you think, she gets half and you get the other half. Don't fight it to hard just try to mediate it through. It sucks and I hate it for you.

Canebrake

Well good. I just have bad luck. Ill be the guy that pays $1000 a month

Sangster

Alimony in Florida is based on "need and ability". Do you have the ability to pay it AND does she have the need for it. Sounds like she doesn't need it, based on her ability to make a decent income. The house.....is there any equity? She gets half. So if there is, and she wants to keep the house....she'll have to buy you out of your half and get her own mortgage. If she can't afford it.....then she can't have it. Whomever keeps the house should buy the other out for half the equity. Best thing to do.....sell it, both of you keep your half of the equity and move on.

Resinhead

Sell the house, split whatever proceeds. See ya.

Buy a bigger boat and find a hotter, younger chick.

Enjoy both.

Canebrake

Sangster wrote: »

Alimony in Florida is based on "need and ability". Do you have the ability to pay it AND does she have the need for it. Sounds like she doesn't need it, based on her ability to make a decent income. The house.....is there any equity? She gets half. So if there is, and she wants to keep the house....she'll have to buy you out of your half and get her own mortgage. If she can't afford it.....then she can't have it. Whomever keeps the house should buy the other out for half the equity. Best thing to do.....sell it, both of you keep your half of the equity and move on.

No equity in the home. We bought it in 06 when everyone was getting it in the rear end. It is however worth close to what we owe on it.

I'm just stressing it. My lawyer has already told me this but I hear horror stories. We have mediation next month.

Polar

any kids involved?

2true

Resinhead wrote: »

Sell the house, split whatever proceeds. See ya.

Buy a bigger boat and find a hotter, younger chick.

Enjoy both.

Sage Advice.

tunaman

Hunter is right...50/50 in Florida, period! Allimony ? I don't really know but you should be o'k

fishdish

Marriage is for fools. All of the happy people I know are single. Of course I am mostly surrounded by married people so maybe my perspective is a little cloudy........

2true

I met a Chiropractor that was paying his wife 60k a year in Alimony. FREAKIN OWWW

jcbcpa

Make sure that you have an attorney that specializes in divorce. When I got my divorce I made a bad decision hiring the attorney I hired. I was trying to save money. Little did I know what it would cost me in the end. My alimony is $4,000 monthly and it's for LIFE unless the ***** remarries or moves in with someone or something like that.

Demere

Google "Florida statutes 61.08". Ask your attorney about imputed income for your wife (Florida statutes 61.30). Google "Florida durational alimony". Ask your attorney about your particular judges prior rulings on alimony.

Madbeach

Get the best female attorney that specializes in divorce.

Demere

2true wrote: »

I met a Chiropractor that was paying his wife 60k a year in Alimony. FREAKIN OWWW

I've gotten many alimony awards of $15,000 - $20,000/month. Don't feel too bad at $5,000/mo.

2true

jcbcpa wrote: »

Make sure that you have an attorney that specializes in divorce. When I got my divorce I made a bad decision hiring the attorney I hired. I was trying to save money. Little did I know what it would cost me in the end. My alimony is $4,000 monthly and it's for LIFE unless the ***** remarries or moves in with someone or something like that.

**** what are you a Banker? Doctor? IT Guy? Engineer?

jcbcpa

jcbcpa

MRichardson

2true wrote: »

**** what are you a Banker? Doctor? IT Guy? Engineer?

The NPV of all of the future monthly alimony payments would make a contract on her look cheap.
Not sayin you should.
Just sayin.

Baits Out

Madbeach wrote: »

Get the best female attorney that specializes in divorce.

A friend of a female friend was a divorce attorney.

Her business card, in addition to her phone number, was plain and simple:

"Marry often; marry well."

:wink

Demere

MRichardson wrote: »

The NPV of all of the future monthly alimony payments would make a contract on her look cheap.
Not sayin you should.
Just sayin.

One thing we do is treat alimony as an annuity and run a present value calculation to reduce the string of payments to a number. Then we negotiate an alimony "buy out" based on that number. Risk is if recipient remarries quickly - if so you've over paid big time. If no remarriage you make one payment and you're done. Not cheap but much less stressful for the payor.

MRichardson

My plan eliminates the uncertaintly.

But of course it's replaced with a different type of uncertainty,
and with low odds since the divorcee will be suspect #1.

Canebrake

Polar wrote: »

any kids involved?

No chirren

Canebrake

jcbcpa wrote: »

My alimony is $4,000 monthly .

I think that would make me shoot someone

Canebrake

Demere wrote: »

I've gotten many alimony awards of $15,000 - $20,000/month. Don't feel too bad at $5,000/mo.

EESSHH

Canebrake

I have a pretty decent atty. No kids, the only asset we have to argue over is the house. Which really isn't an argument. I don't want to pay her to leave there that's for sure. Its just the fact I make so much more money than her I can see a judge sayin oh well you're going to pay her.

IF she does get it I believe she is only entitled to 2 years max because of the amount of time we were married.

Soda Popinski

Demere wrote: »

I've gotten many alimony awards of $15,000 - $20,000/month. Don't feel too bad at $5,000/mo.

My god, i'm buying flowers for my wife on the way home.

fishdish

I don't feel too bad being white trash now....... Alimony would bring out the devil in me if we split. HELL NO!!!!!

fishdish

Best of luck Canebrake. I feel for you and hope it works out for you.

micci_man

I know a guy that has been trying to finalize his divorce for 7 years. X won't sign and keeps going back to court wanting more each time she finds out he gets a raise, bonus's etc. I don't see how one can drag out so long but I know nothing about it thankfully.

Good luck :beer

Soda Popinski

micci_man wrote: »

I know a guy that has been trying to finalize his divorce for 7 years. X won't sign and keeps going back to court wanting more each time she finds out he gets a raise, bonus's etc. I don't see how one can drag out so long but I know nothing about it thankfully.

Good luck :beer

WTH? It should be based on what he was making when they split not 7 years later. I'd probably quit a good job and get a crap job just out of spite. Sure you want alimony, you'll get your fair share of all the money I make bagging groceries at Winn Dixie from now on.